At ChurmellMitchell.com, we regularly work with fathers from all walks of life—men who are navigating co-parenting, healing from trauma, or simply trying to show up better for their families. During our coaching sessions, we’ve noticed a pattern: the same heartfelt, vulnerable questions keep coming up. These questions reflect the real struggles and hopes of modern fathers, and we believe the answers deserve to be shared.
Here are the top 3 questions fathers ask during our coaching programs—and the powerful, life-affirming answers we give.
1. “How do I stay connected with my children when I don’t live with them?”
The Challenge: Divorce, separation, or co-parenting often creates physical distance between fathers and their kids. Many men worry that this gap will affect their bond or make them seem less present.
The Answer: Presence isn’t just about proximity—it’s about intentionality. Even if you can’t be there every day, you can:
Create consistent communication (video calls, messages, letters)
Build routines they can count on (weekly check-ins, shared hobbies)
Show up emotionally by being attentive and engaged when you’re together
Never speak negatively about the other parent, which protects your child’s emotional stability
We coach fathers on how to maintain emotional closeness, establish meaningful routines, and stay involved despite life’s complications.
2. “How can I heal from my past mistakes and still be a good father?”
The Challenge: Many fathers carry shame or regret from past choices—whether it’s absence, anger, addiction, or missed opportunities. This pain often leads to guilt and self-doubt.
The Answer: Healing is possible, and your past doesn’t have to define your future. What matters most is your willingness to change and grow. We teach fathers to:
Acknowledge their past without being trapped by it
Apologize and rebuild trust with their children where necessary
Seek support through therapy, coaching, or community
Use their story as a lesson, not a life sentence
We help men turn their pain into purpose. Your healing journey can become the foundation of your child’s healing too.
3. “What if the mother of my child isn’t cooperative? How do I co-parent effectively?”
The Challenge: Co-parenting isn’t always easy—especially when communication is strained or trust is broken. Many fathers feel discouraged when trying to establish peace with a non-cooperative co-parent.
The Answer: You can’t control the other parent, but you can control your own actions. We teach fathers how to:
Respond, not react—keep conversations calm and focused on the child
Document important exchanges when necessary
Maintain boundaries and clear expectations
Always prioritize the child’s emotional and physical well-being
We emphasize mature communication, legal awareness, and emotional intelligence so that fathers can navigate conflict without chaos.
Final Thoughts
These questions are more than just concerns—they’re a reflection of how deeply fathers care. At our coaching sessions, we don’t just give answers; we offer guidance, brotherhood, and hope.
If you’re a father with questions, pain, or just the desire to grow, we’re here for you. Visit ChurmellMitchell.com to learn more about our coaching programs and find the support you need to lead your family with strength and heart.
